Hi there blogowers…
Sorry, it’s been a while since I blogged. Note to self; be seriously more disciplined about blogging than you have until now. I said I shall try and blog once a month and that’s precisely what I shall endeavour to do from now on. So sorry ’bout that.
So, what’s been happening? Well, I have a partner, Lee. It’s been a year of significant change, for both of us actually. It’s been very positive and we’re both very happy. Work has been great too. What’s been really interesting is seeing how, when you take control of your actions and behaviours and how when you set your mind to bringing about change, it slowly and surely takes shape.
You’ll recall my previous blogs were all about the “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” and I had taken you through the ‘Private Victory’. I would say that is what has happened to me in as much as I have really understood and lived by the ‘Private Victory’ which is reaping benefits in all facets of my life and relationships. If you’ve no idea what I’m talking about, I invite you to have a quick read through my previous posts.
I’ve also started to see significant change and progression in the ‘Public Victory’, that is to say the way in which I build relationships and inter-dependence with others around me. This includes both family, friends and work colleagues. The net result is I feel more connected than ever, trusted, respected and significantly for me, I feel as if I’m making a valuable contribution in both my work and personal life. I have to say it feels good and has almost crept up on without knowing it, even though I know I have put in a considerable amount of effort. Not that it’s felt like that. It’s true what you hear and read about change. By making small and incremental changes, you can slowly change your life and take it in the direction you want to. Remember ‘Habit 1 – Be Proactive’?
I won’t dwell too much more on the “7 Habits”. The material is out there for anyone who wants to participate; the book, the audio, the courses etc… What I will say is that the second half of the “7 Habits”, the ‘Public Victory’, can be transformational. Habit 4, the “Think Win-Win” mindset, Habit 5 (my personal favourite) “Seek first to understand and then to be understood” is incredibly simple in it’s concept but harder to live by day to day. Master it though and your relationships will be transformed, I promise.
Habit 6 “Synergise” is a little tricky in both concept and mastery but basically, the idea is that we value and embrace diversity and work together to create something neither side (or party) to a transaction/debate whatever could ever have dreamt of. It’s NOT about compromise because with that, someone always has to give a little (or a lot) and can still feel hard done by. Synergy (in the true sense of the word, not as it’s used in corporate-speak) is truly transformational stuff. It can build strong and lasting friendships and relationships, beyond your wildest dreams. I would heartily encourage you to look into this more deeply and I’m bound to say you can do worse than explore Dr. Covey’s work in either the “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” or his follow up work, “The 3rd Alternative”, something I’m currently reading.
One final word for now. Connection. I mentioned in my earlier blogs the value of connection. I have really come to learn a huge amount about myself this past year or so and how vital connection and love are for all of us. Family, friends, loved ones are so important to our health and well being in all facets of life. Treasure the here and now and treasure those whom you love and hold dearest. If you’re not seeing eye to eye, take a breath and have a vision of how you can work through your differences and problems. I promise you, it will get you both to a much better place in your life and you will both grow much, much stronger. It takes time, but it is worth it.
Until next time. Take care.